People ask me how many points they score with someone. I don't give scores. There is nothing you can do with a 78 once you walk out the door. A good number lets you relax, a bad one makes you anxious, and neither tells you what to do differently tomorrow.

There is always a thread between two people, and one of them is pulling it. The one who reaches out first, who reads the other's mood first, who gives in first. That is not a bad thing. But if no one knows who is pulling, the one pulling wears out and the one receiving never notices.

I read how tight the thread is, and in which years it goes slack. I will write down why that person acts the way they do, what you are misreading, and what to do so the thread does not break.